Healing the Mother Wound

This online masterclass series is specially designed for Adult Daughters who are seeking support and guidance in healing from the negative impacts of having an emotionally immature mother. 

 It's time to reclaim your emotional well-being and thrive despite the challenges of having an emotionally immature mother....

 Are you ready to break free from the cycle of emotional pain and reclaim your power?

Manifestations of Emotional Immaturity in Mothers that cause pain for Adult Daughters: 

Does your mother display any of these behaviors?

• Only surface-level conversations are possible
• Petty behaviors, gossip, backbiting, retaliation or just drama
• Rigidity in views, black or white views of right or wrong
• May have been authoritarian or ascribe to old school parenting styles
• Resistant to seeing you as a full adult, you’ll always be a child to her
• Not interested in inner work or self-examination, dismisses therapy or self-help
• Attention-seeking and appearances strongly influence her motivations
• Won’t accept help or help herself but will complain often and loudly
• Constantly under stress or in crisis, feels helpless or victimized
• Seems spooked by deep emotions, doesn’t want to “work through” conflict
• Doesn’t understand why people don’t “get over it” and move on
• Prefers to “push things under the rug” and pretend things are fine
• Critical of you, surveys, compares and evaluates you to some degree
• Doesn’t put in any effort to see you, can’t be bothered, always an excuse
• Is very anxious and would like to be in constant contact with you
• You feel you have to do most of the work in the relationship, it’s all on you
• Indignant and entitled, guilt-trips are common
• She’s more kind to you the worse you’re doing; when you’re well, she’s distant

Do these sound familiar?  If so, keep reading...

Adult daughters of Emotionally Immature Mothers Commonly Struggle with things like:

•  Self-doubt: Questioning whether you are enough or have enough to meet some standard in various areas of your life
• Self-sabotage: Acting against your own best interests when it’s time to make a choice or decision that reflects what you truly want for yourself
• Self-betrayal: Breaking commitments you have made to yourself to stay true to what you need or value in the face of the demands of other people
• Self-abandonment: Due to low self-esteem, erasing your own needs or values in favor of someone who benefits from your lack of boundaries or self-worth
• Self-sacrificing behaviors: Putting oneself last and people-pleasing in the hopes that will elicit a sense of belonging and connection with other people
• Silencing oneself: An underlying belief that voicing one’s true needs and feelings is inherently threatening to the viability of their relationships. 

If you can relate to these challenges, there is nothing wrong with you. 

These are coping mechanisms and learned adaptations from childhood.

The good news is that now as adults we can come to terms with what we endured in the past, learn to grieve and move into empowering new choices and behaviors that reflect greater personal sovereignty, self-worth and self-respect.

It’s possible to learn how to deal with and heal from an Emotionally Immature mother and step into more inner peace and empowerment including.... 

• Owning the legitimacy of your own needs, limits, boundaries as inherently valid 
•  Unapologetically and non-defensively using your voice to honor and protect yourself whenever that is called for
• No longer conflating having self-respect with being selfish or mean to others
• Being able to hold both compassion for others AND your own boundaries at the same time
• Recognizing when other people don’t have the capacity to value you due to their own stuff without blaming them or taking it personally
• Healthy discernment when evaluating your non-negotiables in your relationships without anxiety or fear
• Feeling secure as the sole authority of what is right, best and true for you
• Taking full responsibility for what you give the power to upset you
• Enjoying the process of refining how you show up in your life and your relationships with integrity and authenticity
• Viscerally feeling an increasing internal safety that no matter what happens out there in the world you'll be OK
• Befriending your solitude as a source of nourishment, which reduces pressure on the need for external people to "complete you"
• And so much more!!