You may know you have an inner child, but did you know you also have an INNER TEENAGER?

Our teenage years were some of the most pivotal and powerful years of our childhoods. 


As teenagers, we encountered a LOT of pressure and emotional turmoil from our social groups at school, the larger cultural expectations, not to mention whatever degree of dysfunction, abuse, or pain we may have been encountering in our home environment with our parents and siblings. 

For many of us, we didn’t feel listened to, understood, or respected as teens. We may have felt unseen, unloved, and unheard. 

We may have felt dismissed by adults and disappointed in their lack of integrity. We may have coped with the pain of all these pressures in unhealthy ways like acting out, high-risk behaviors, lying, or isolating and turning inward to protect ourselves. 


In your adult life, during times of stress, the "inner teenager" may get triggered and make attempts to take action to protect your system.


This is a problem because the inner teen doesn’t yet have the tools to do this because she is still a child, not yet an adult. So these "protective actions" can be self-defeating, dysfunctional, or even destructive.


When she is activated within us due to fear and the impulse to protect, the inner teen can actually *perpetuate the problematic programming* we received from family and the patriarchal culture in a misguided effort to feel safe, free, and in control.

This is really important to understand as it’s a form of self-sabotage when we allow a panicked or reactive inner teen to be at the wheel of our self-system rather than our adult self/inner mother.

How the inner teen's pain can show up in our adult lives:

  • Feeling paralyzed by feelings of shame and not feeling good enough.
  • Impulsive behaviors that are not thought through or ignoring consequences.
  • Hypervigilance, control issues, overworking, rigid fixations, perfectionism.
  • Burnout; pushing yourself beyond your window of tolerance for external validation. 
  • Black-or-white thinking (distortions, catastrophizing.)
  • Judging and shaming other people as a way to feel in control, gossiping.
  • Pushing people away and rejecting helpful tools or support (extreme independence.)
  • Addictive tendencies, escapism, and sensation-seeking behavior.
  • Quick to anger and reactivity with others (including violence, throwing things.)
  • “Pecking order” thinking; trying to one-up others by feeling superior, better-than.
  • Risky relationships and behaviors, like cheating on a spouse and over-spending funds.
  • Lying, hiding the truth, manipulating, giving-to-get, omitting the truth, etc.
  • “Right is might” kind of thinking. (I’m right, you’re wrong, so I win.)

Looking at this list, it’s clear to see that when our inner teen “takes the wheel” of our system in moments, it doesn’t take much time for problems to ensue.

So What’s the Problem?

Whatever “unfinished business” we haven’t dealt with from our teen years is still impacting our lives to some degree today as adults. Often our inner teen shows up when there’s a big imbalance in our system. She tries to tell us something is wrong, a change is needed, or that we are not safe somehow. If we don’t listen to those signals and ignore them, she will hijack our system and make decisions or choices, or behaviors that are not in our best interest.

The Inner Teen Needs the Inner Mother

The Inner Teen needs the adult self, the inner mother, to help her feel safe, and secure, and to feel whole exactly as she is. Otherwise, her inner distress can create destruction and pain in your life and long into the future. To heal from the shame and pain of the past and to flourish as a source of positive energy in your system, your inner teen needs the love and support of you as her adult self, the inner mother. You can learn how to mother your inner teen into her true creativity, freedom, confidence, sovereignty, and joy.

There’s nothing like the freedom that comes with healing the inner teen!

A note from Bethany

I created this mini-course on Healing the Inner Teenager so that you can help your inner teen to heal and start to experience the joy, freedom, creativity, and amazing energy that emerges as your inner teen increasingly transforms. I am so excited to offer it to you, as healing my inner teen has been the most incredible healing work of my life. Instead of her power pushing and rebelling against you, your inner teen becomes aligned with you, and all kinds of new possibilities and potentials open up!

Here’s what you will learn

What you will learn in this mini-course across three 90-minute video modules:

  • The two main sources of shame and how we absorb them in childhood

  • Why the inner teen can actually keep our shame in place

  • The connection between the Mother Gap, Shame, and the False self

  • Why shame is the “outer ring” of the Mother Wound and what’s actually at the center

  • Learn a 5-step “Inner mothering” process to shed childhood shame

  • The 3 aspects of the Shame cycle and what is needed to disrupt it.

  • More about why “Shame is a sham” and why it’s crucial you see the truth about it

  • Widely believed myths about shame that can keep us stuck in it for years (or decades)

  • The inviolate truths about your inherent worth, innocence, and goodness

  • How your life will change as shame is released, and innocence is revealed

Heal Your Inner Teenager

Choose to pay one payment of $77 or split the payment into two monthly payments of $45. Whatever works best for you!

The Workbook contains the following supportive tools

⭐How to identify and transform shame-based thoughts
⭐ Journaling prompts to connect with your inner teenager
⭐ A powerful guided exercise on how to connect with your inner teen
⭐ List of ways to connect with your inner teen in your daily life
⭐ A 5-step process to embrace shame and dissolve its power over you
⭐ List of loving things you can say to your inner teen to build trust
⭐ List of signs that your inner teen is trusting you more

The “Healing the Inner Teenager” mini-course is for you if:

  • Your teenage years were a challenging time in your life
  • You have had a difficult relationship with your mother
  • You notice how shame has been holding you back in different areas of your life
  • You want to access more of your power, potential, freedom, and the joy of living
  • You’re feeling ready for a change, for something new and better to emerge in your life. 

As you can see, this mini-course on healing the inner teen is PACKED with helpful insights, tools, mindsets, exercises, and more to help you release shame, connect with your inner teen and start to reap the powerful benefits of this inner bond.



Ready to give your inner Teen what she needs?

Go deeper with my new mini-course: “Healing the Inner Teenager”


Shame, and our defenses against it, are at the core of our most problematic beliefs, values, and patterns and at the root of many of the personal and global challenges that we face today.

When we can become aware of how shame was internalized in childhood through our teenage years and how it shows up for us now as women, we can disrupt old patterns, make new choices, and anoint the parts of ourselves that we have been taught to reject, clearing the way for the women and girls of the future. 

In other words, we can stop self-sabotage in its tracks.

Join me in my new mini-course, “Healing the Inner Teenager,” to learn how to nurture your inner teen, cultivate a loving bond with her, and dissolve the shame of the past so that her energy, vitality, courage, and liberating energy can uplift and infuse your life. 

If Not Now, When?

It’s time to get off the emotional rollercoaster that comes with a distressed inner teenager and finally give your inner teen the love, compassion, and support she deserves.

Heal Your Inner Teenager

Choose to pay one payment of $77 or split the payment into two payments of $45. Whatever works best for you!

What happens as the Inner Teen heals and transforms?

There are many gifts of a Secure Inner Teenager:

  • Become a force for justice and integrity across the board.
  • Embody a fidelity to one’s inner truth and the ethics of honesty and transparency.
  • Honor one’s right to be sovereign while also honoring others’ sovereignty too
  • Become discerning and understanding; a hunger to get to the bottom of things.
  • True Belonging: A sense that life is trustworthy, interconnected, and benevolent.
  • Become a potent bullshit-detector, easily sniffing out power dynamics and manipulation or lack of integrity.
  • Exude Originality, thinking outside the box, creativity, and innovation.
  • Hear one’s intuition and courageously act on it, even if it bucks the crowd.
  • Exhibit the impulse to play and have fun, to move at one’s own pace unrestricted.
  • Have a healthy desire to explore, grow, learn, play, and evolve one’s perspective.
  • Expand your capacity to be honestly, authentically connected with others.
  • Love life! Bring Spontaneity, joy, elation, pleasure, and buoyancy to your life.
  • Feel and know your worth; no need to prove, strive, or compete anymore.
  • Express the joy of doing things without a goal, the joy of being and doing in and of itself.

Looking at the above list, it’s easy to see how healing our inner teenager can help us grow individually AND also how our healing can benefit the whole of humanity. 


*This is a pre-recorded training I taught live in the past. It's my most requested material to date.

An Invitation to Stop Resisting Life.

As the inner teenager feels safe, sacred, and secure, we stop resisting Life. We start to feel the truth of our own innocence and eternal connection with all life.
The “shame goggles” slowly dissolve from our eyes, and we can see life as it really is: benevolent, kind, trustworthy, full of wonder, awe, and magic. Life becomes more simple, calm, and peaceful.
We live more in the flow of the present moment, trusting life to bring us what we need. We’re no longer driven by fear and desire or focus on control as a means to be safe. Greater compassion for ourselves and all life emerges.